The Resolution that Changed my Life

 

Hello friends! Long time, no see. I've been MIA for a short while now. To be honest, I was consumed with trying to keep up with every day life, continuing to develop a business and pull off a dream wedding (I had no idea how much time and brain power it would take! That will be discussed soon.) At first, I tried to juggle every part of my life, but the "to-do's" came crashing down. I went back and read last year's New Year's Resolution post and I realized that it was ok if I needed to put a few things to the side to maintain my sanity. So, here I am...back to my love of blogging about inner and outer beauty. Thanks for all your support.

You may be asking, "What was in your New Year's post that inspired you to take a break?" First, I would highly encourage you to read the original post because it's about a truly life changing "ah ha" moment for me. In short, It was the belief that I was enough for the day. I could make goals, work towards them...but I had permission to be content with where I was and not pressure myself to do more than I could handle. I could be free and not so critical of myself in other words.

This year, I want to take it one step further. I'm a huge believer in the power of words. I often say things over myself to give myself a little pep talk. I thought I would put this concept of "being enough" into declarations that you and I could say over ourselves. Read them. Let them hit home, and repeat them as much as needed until you actually believe the words and believe in yourself a bit more.

 

I AM ENOUGH FOR TODAY.

  • My value is not based on what I do, how I look or how well I perform. I have worth regardless of these things.
  • I will not compare myself to others. Comparison is the stealer of joy. I am my own person with a unique purpose in this world.
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  • I will treat myself with kindness by choosing to speak lovingly, not harshly, over myself. I will extend grace to myself as much as needed.
  • No matter what happens, I choose to love myself so that I can better love others.
  • I will be confident in what I say, what I do and who I am. I will not second guess myself.
  • I have a choice to how I respond to life. I will let laughter and joy be my immediate response. 
  • I value what my life looks like today. Today is taking me to where I am going, regardless of what its appearance looks like. It's a needed page in the story of my life. 
  • Busyness is a choice. There is enough time in the day for everything that needs to get done. Everything else can wait. I choose to be content with how this day plays out and what it brings.
  • I am not in control of everything that is going to happen today. I will choose joy in the face of set-backs and appreciate the events of today instead of playing the victim.
  • I will not look at social media and believe that I'm any less of a person than someone's portrayed perfect life. Everyone has moments of joy and hardship and I'm no different.
  • I give myself permission to practically take care of myself today. (I will give 10 minutes to myself. I will let myself stay in the car until this song is done. I will light a candle. I will make that cup of hot tea. I will let myself say no to going out and enjoy a hot bath instead.) I, and others, will benefit from this.

I AM ENOUGH FOR TODAY.

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Thank you to the friends that have listened to my "being enough" thoughts and for contributing a few of these declarations ideas. We're all on this journey together.

Style Your Life With Passion

 

And the content is gone! Sorry to surprise you!

After getting such a great response over my Closet Audit Guide, I realized the information that I loved sharing with you on my blog is crazy practical advice that can't be found elsewhere. Who would've thought?! What I'd love to do is put it in an e-book or something of the sort. I'm in the process of refining it so I can have even more info to offer you. If you're on the email list, you'll be alerted when the information is available. If not, sign up!

Thanks so much for all the support!


Inner Beauty Audit: 3 Questions to Ask

 

Today, we continue using our Refashion Closet Audit Chart to do an inner beauty audit. Last week we covered "Have you worn this in the last year?" and we learned to take time to reflect on life and see what needs to be audited and altered. If you missed reading about this really important question, click here or scroll down. The next steps require action - refocus and respond

As I mentioned, "Have you worn this in the last year?" was the first question asked, so this week we continue down the infographic by asking:

"Does it fit?"

"Is it in good condition?"

"Will I fix it?"

 

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DOES IT FIT?

Transition in life is inevitable. With it comes change - change in who we are, who and what we invest in, our passions and hobbies, etc. Are there things in your life that once belonged, but they don't seem to fit any more? 

Let me give you an example. If I’m drained in life, I know it’s rarely anyone or anything’s fault besides mine. Something is probably running my life besides me. Not good. It may be because I’m saying yes to someone or something that doesn’t give me life like it used to give life. In this case, it’s good to filter out these things. 

A key to a balanced life is having healthy boundaries and putting more meaning behind your yes's and your no's.

It’s important to say yes to the activities or people that bring you life. It’s ok to say no to the ones that don’t do that for you any more. One of my mentors taught me the strength of a sincere “yes” and “no”. If I say “no” to the people and activities that shouldn’t be taking up my time at that moment, that actually makes my “yes” more meaningful and in return all parties benefit.

Take a healthy assessment. If youʼre not sure, ask someone that you trust for their honest opinion.
— A Refashion Closet Audit Guide

Much like in my closet audit guide, if you’re having a hard time reflecting, refocusing and responding to what belongs in your life, ask a trusted friend to help you assess where your energy, time, money, etc is going. 

 

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IS IT IN GOOD CONDITION?

I’m a big believer in overall health, whether that means physical, mental or emotional. I always ask the question, “Will this help get me to where and who I want to be?” So on a physical note, do you need to get rid of bad eating habits and add exercise into your routine in order to live a long, healthy life? Maybe it looks like you need to take a chill pill and rest more. (This is way more likely my issue!) 

Then there’s the emotional side. I’m just being real here...if you find yourself upset, ashamed, offended or hurt, comparing yourself to others, judging, etc. a lot, then most likely there’s something that needs to be addressed. Search within to see where those feelings are actually starting. Rarely is it about the present circumstance. We form beliefs based on the cards we've been dealt and how we've coped in life. This is covered a lot in my last blog post.

 

WILL I FIX IT?

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The real question is, “Should I fix myself or is it something that is out of my hands?” We are all faced with conflict or issues in life. The first response to any situation is seeing how much ownership we have in it. There’s times when we just need to suck it up and take action to make a bad situation correct. Then there’s some situations that we can’t do anything about. And that’s ok. Refocus to see how much ownership you carry, and then respond the best way you know how to respond.

It’s not what happens to you, but how you react to it that matters.
— Our Old Friend, Epictetus

FINAL THOUGHT

There are so many directions I could've taken these questions. Instead of covering every base and then some, I'm using them in the most practical way I know how. Feel free to message me here or comment below and let me know what jumped out at you when you went through these questions. I would love to hear! Feel free to use #innerbeautyaudit on social media! :)

Remember, no one's perfect. Just be the best you!